A story of success & depression
John (name changed for the sake of anonymity) was a successful investment banker. In a short span of time had achieved commendable success in his life in terms of promotion, money, cars, house and all modern amenities one can think of. He had a well-knit family with a loving wife and two adorable kids. Life was fullest to the brim. But things started changing soon. John started showing signs of detachment towards his work and apathy towards family. He would lock himself up in his room for hours, not communicate with his wife or play with his children. He stopped meeting his friends and going to parties. His work suffered because of his careless attitude.
When John’s wife Jenny tried to understand what was going wrong with him, he got irritated and quarrelled with her. Jenny also noticed that John was having problem sleeping at night. He would pace their balcony up and down and smoke vigorously. His inclination towards alcohol had also increased. Jenny couldn’t understand what to do and who to resort to for help.
After two months, John returned home from work early one day and declared that he has resigned from his job. He blamed it on the management of the company for being too demanding and nasty in their dealings. He also promised Jenny to find another job in no time as he was a well educated and highly experienced professional. But things turned worse. His alcohol addiction grew and he stopped going out for interviews. His behavior changed. He started loosing his cool at the drop of a hat. Gradually, his relationship with Jenny turned bitter and one day she decided to leave him because she believed that the environment of the home was not suitable for the kids to grow in a healthy manner. After one week of Jenny’s leaving the house, John committed suicide.
This is a case of typical depressive disorder, which Jenny could not understand. Had Jenny been aware of its symptoms she could have helped her husband cope with the condition instead of leaving him alone. The real reasons of depression are often hidden a bit deeper and one has to dig & look for them in order to uncover the real source of the problem. Mere knee-jerk reaction doesn’t work. It is very normal for people not from a medical background to not know about symptoms of mental health disorders. But as depression is growing in a massive way among people of all age, sex and class, it is important to be aware of its early symptoms so that we can extend our helping hand to them and make them come out of the condition or stop them from talking any irrational decision about life.
It is a normal reaction to experience feelings of sadness, loneliness or even depression at times. However, when these feelings turn overwhelming, last for a prolonged period of time and keep you from leading a normal life, it is important to seek medical help.
About 50% of people suffering from depression never get themselves diagnosed let alone treated. Recognition of symptoms is the key to combating depression and stopping it from amounting to being life-threatening. The severity of the symptoms linked to depression might vary from one person to other and can even last for months and even years.
Let us check out a few symptoms related to depression:
Persistent feelings of sadness, emptiness or anxiety may continue over a time period without getting better or going away. Many people experience losing interest in games or hobbies which they otherwise used to enjoy earlier. One may get cranky and restless, turn pessimistic towards everything and even deliberate on ending their lives. The intensity and duration of these feelings are different from person to person.
Disrupted Sleep cycle
The relationship of depression and sleep is quite complex. A lack of sleep may cause depressive disorders and depression may result in problems in sleeping. Some people experience sleep problems as first few symptoms of depression. Insomniac people have a ten-fold risk of developing depression in comparison to those individuals who sleep well.
A warning symptom of an impending depression in a person change in cognitive functioning or the lack of it. People suffering from depression find it difficult to make decision, concentrate, and retain memory.
Depression and weight issues are often go hand in hand. Some people experience gain of weight while others lose weight greatly. It is also seen that obese people tend to become depressed. Patients suffering from severe depression may losing weight significantly due to a loss of interest in food, which in turn is a sign of lack of interest in attaining pleasure.
Depression patients are often trapped in their own flow of thoughts. They tend to become pessimistic about life and their surrounding. However, it gets sometimes difficult to assess whether depression is causing negative thoughts or it is the negative thoughts that are turning into depression. However, the moot point is that it is this thought process that causes them to feel helpless and lonely.
Depression may manifests into physical symptoms as well. Depression brings along feeling of tiredness, fatigue, physical symptoms such as vague pain or aches, nausea, diarrhoea etc.n. Many may experience chronic gastrointestinal problems, joint pains, loss of appetite, etc.
Detection belies affirmative action
Being aware of the symptoms can help both the persons who are experiencing depression and their family members and friends. There is always a possibility that a depressed person does not want people around him/her to know what he/she is going through. This may be due to a variety of reasons such as protection of self-image, avoiding scrutinizing, etc. But the downside is that without people knowing about the situation, no-one steps up to help. And a help is exactly what a depressed person needs. Early detection of the disorder is always better for healing up faster and for avoiding any life-threatening incident which can cause an irrepairable damage to the lives of a person and the people that matter.